Hearts and flowers, hugs and kisses. This is the image that comes to mind when we hear the word love. How well is that working when it comes to your kids? Does being nice, agreeable and generous result in responsible, respectful behavior? The answer to that is often 'no', especially when looking beyond the moment. Love and how it manifests have to change as your children grow, if you want them to grow up. Let's take a look at a new definition of this complicated and evolving emotion.
Do you equate loving your children with being nice and agreeable? Does being nice keep the peace, but leave you feeling frustrated and ineffective? If so, you're not alone. It may be time to rethink this belief, this definition of love.
Love begins as being nice and warm and full of hugs and kisses. After all, as babies they are completely dependent on you and thrive in the warmth of your love and protection. As they grow, this diet of hovering and protection must change.
Love means giving your children what they need. Aside from food, clothing, shelter and education, what do they need? What does love mean?
Love means saying 'no'. From two to twenty-two, they are unprepared for the multitude of opportunities and temptations life offers them. Someone has to be there to say 'maybe' or 'no' once in a while. You know what happens when there are no limits, how the chaos grows. Sometimes giving them what they need means not giving them something. When you find it difficult to say 'no', remind yourself that 'no' is a love word.
By Fern WeisSource : http://ezinearticles.com/
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